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Every solid relationship is based on mutual trust, understanding, and open communication. That, however, doesn’t mean that we should utter every thought. Sometimes, the things we choose to share with our partner, no matter how honest, can lead to unnecessary tension, insecurity, and even misunderstanding.
This doesn’t mean we should keep secrets from the person we are in a relationship with, but some feelings are better processed privately before being shared.
Below are 15 things that a woman should avoid telling her man:
1. “My ex used to do that too”
Making comparisons between your ex and current partner may not be the best idea because it can be interpreted as though you are still not over the guy you once dated. At the same time, it can affect your partner’s self-confidence and lead to jealousy and resentment.
2. “You’re not ambitious enough”
Telling your partner they lack ambition or they are not as ambitious as you’d like them to be can sound as criticism rather than an attempt to push them. What feels to you like a lack of drive from his side may be him taking slow steps towards a goal.
3. “You’re exactly like your dad”
If your partner exhibits a habits you are not happy with, be sure to point that out without dragging family into the matter. Comparing him with his father may sound like judgement or even insult, depending on his relationship with his dad. By avoiding these sorts of comparisons, you can help put a stop to any generational trauma.
4. “I don’t need you”
Even if you are an independent woman who can do everything by herself, don’t say that in front of your partner. The truth is that men love to be needed, and telling them they are not will likely feel them useless. Making sure your partner is appreciated won’t make you weak, on the contrary, it will strengthen your relationship even further.
5. “That guy is so hot”
Commenting other guys’ appearance in front of your partner can affect their self-confidence. Imagine how you’d feel if he says another woman is gorgeous or hot in front of you.
6. “I make more money than you”
When in a relationship, success is a team win, not a competition.
Men often tie their self-worth to their ability to provide, so bringing up income—especially in a competitive way—can trigger feelings of inadequacy and even resentment.
7. “Don’t be so sensitive”
When men open up about their feelings, they expect to be understood, not judged. So, telling them things like “you are being so sensitive” can make them question their emotions.
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